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Anonymous asked: First of all, your blog is amazing: Second: I'm a 15 year old girl. I have really small boobs, one of them smaller than the other. No matter what clothing I wear, I never have any cleavage. The females in my family are quite curvy, and tell me that I'm "so lucky to have my body type." Im not upset at them, I just don't feel comfortable voicing my insecurities to anyone, and I think about it too much. I have this feeling in my heart that no one will ever be attracted to me bc of this.


A few things:

-Small boobs are great. Big boobs are great. Boobs of all sizes are great. It’s hard to believe, but true.

-Every single person who has boobs has one boob that’s smaller than the other. Sometimes it’s harder to tell on someone, but it’s true. And 99% of people will not notice it on you. It’s a completely normal, universal part of boobs, so normal people won’t pay attention to it. (Check out that link I just posted to the boob gallery, you’ll notice a lot of those breasts have one that is larger than the other)

-We have a “the grass is always greener” culture around beauty. We’re taught especially as women that we should always be striving to be better and prettier. So it’s easy for us to idolize bodies that aren’t like ours. And that’s where your family’s comments are coming from. Your insecurities are valid. And they’re not so different from the insecurities behind your family’s comments. It might help to think of it like that.

-It can be hard to voice these insecurities but you can. That’s your right as a human. And it might help you to cope. If your family doesn’t seem the best playing field, try a friend, or even a school counselor or nurse. It might seem awkward, but that’s the kind of thing they’re there for.

-Plenty of people are going to be attracted to you. I have some friends who people are constantly falling for, and some of them have larger breasts, and some of them are practically flat chested. Boob size actually has very little to do with whether or not someone’s attracted to you. And just like some people prefer blondes, and some people prefer brunettes, some people prefer smaller boobs, and some people prefer bigger boobs. 

-But more importantly, you are gorgeous and awesome regardless of what anyone else thinks about you. Regardless of and because of your boobs (because they’re part of what make you you).

-When you’re feeling frustrated about not being able to create cleavage, celebrate the stuff you can do. There are all those tiny little bralettes and shirts you can’t wear bras with that I and other big breasted people will never be able to wear. Buy one or just try one on in the store. Look how pretty you look, and celebrate that that’s something you can uniquely rock.

-I know it’s really really hard but try to think less about this. There is so so much more to you than your breasts. And you have so much going on in your life! Society tries to crush girls by making us focus on our looks and our insecurities and what we perceive as our imperfections, because if we’re busy obsessing over that, we can’t get busy taking over the world. When you find these thoughts bubbling up, try a trick I use in meditation, acknowledge the thoughts & then dismiss them. Say, “hi there thoughts, I see you’re here, but I’m not dwelling on you,” and send them on their way. It’s hard at first but it can work. And if it’s not working, try a positive distraction: your favorite movie, going out with a friend, reading a book, taking a bubble bath, cuddling with your fave stuffed animal, playing a video game, etc. Do something that makes you happy and clears your mind or keeps your head busy with other stuff.

Hope that helps!

i also have small boobs with one boob smaller. like one boob might fit into the a cup bra, the other one no chance (i only speak of bras without any push-up or padding). since i’m also pretty skinny i just wear soft bras/bustiers in s or xs, and i’m pretty happy with that, especially with that low-cut lacy black one - it’s hawt. no cleavage though, but i never felt i lacked that. you still have the entire rest of the body to sex up if you feel inclined to do so.

most importantly, i have met many women with small boobs like that. they all wear padded bras, so if you don’t know them that well or don’t have an eye for that (like a slightly pervy eye maybe XD), you might never know. it might be generally easier to make boobs look bigger than smaller.

what i’m saying is, the asker should not feel they are part of some tiny minority - just because they happen to know many big chested girls. tons of people have small boobs, it’s perfectly normal and quite common. i don’t wear push-ups because i don’t like it, it feels like wearing a costume to me, but i see no problem in other people doing so - “we are all born naked, the rest is drag” should be the motto here i think.

personally, i have been determined not to feel shitty about my cup size - like the many women that i know do. i have not always succeeded, like feeling bad about an awesome dress not being for me at all (in any case, clothing should fit you, not the other way around, and there is still plenty of stuff even if the majority doesn’t work for you. some dresses even look much better with flat chests and those i buy - in large quantities). i guess it is still not easy because of the meaning people and media attach to boob size - as if it was the epitome of feminity which is utter bullshit…one good tip might be to go hunting for images yourself that challenge these ideas, and tumblr is a really nice place to do so. here you can find literally hundreds of images of beautiful femme people with small boobs - and of someone who kinda looks like yourself.

the thing is though you are how you are. and if someone else cannot appreciate that, fuck them. distance yourself, if only emotionally, from toxic people in that regard. i dated people who would sorta ignore my breasts - or have a strong dislike for bigger boobs, which didn’t make me feel good either. fuck them. i’d never not date someone due to cup size, many wouldn’t, and i honestly judge people who do. it seems immature, and some people do grow out of it. so yeah, it gets better too!

last but not least, we sometimes brood over one feature or the other, and it feels like it will always be a problem, but then it just stops. insecurities can just drop away as you get older. it’s not easy to control that or make a conscious decision and the next day you’re totally happy with everything, but i noticed that some things that used to bother me pretty badly about my body don’t anymore. i had realised they weren’t that bad, or did not pay as much attention. that is i felt at peace, yet my body did not change or at least not for “the better”. sometimes when i wanna freak out about something, i try to remember that - how i already “magically” got over another insecurity in the past.

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I’m not like other girls!XD


I only have guy friends. I mean all girls do is start drama.image

Oh my god, i hate sluts! image

Other girls my age like to drink and party but i like to stay inside and read or watch netflix! I’m so weird. image

All the girls in my school care about is makeup and shopping and all i care about is FOOD and VIDEO GAMES. lol sometimes i think i was born a guy.image

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My super-conservative devout Mormon parents (and society in general) have made a lot of progress toward acceptance since I first came out 11 years ago, and I’m genuinely grateful and impressed. But at the same time, I still feel a lot of hurt, and anger, and frustration at how far they (and society) still have to go. Sometimes it can be difficult to find balance between those extremes. It’s been mostly anger this week.

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