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anxiety.

Or, you know, you could just stop saying sorry.

I take it you don’t have anxiety.

You can’t “just stop saying sorry”. You do something, something so little, like accidentally bump into someone. You feel horrible about it. Your brain starts panicking and you have trouble trying to breathe. You stutter an apology. They say it’s okay, but you accidentally do it again, and you apologize again. They just say “Aha, you can stop saying sorry.” And you feel horrible that you’ve probably made them angry or upset, so you mutter out an apology for the third stupid time, and they just say to stop saying sorry. Stop saying sorry. 

You can’t just tell someone to stop saying you’re sorry.

I want that comment on flyers so I can hang them in my school

reblogging this one for the GOOD commentary.

to me that was more of a combination of two things: lacking emotion progressing (in my case, related to previously untreated borderline) and what some call their inner drill sargent = me being caught in punitive and demanding parent modes, according to schema therapy terminology, which was again related to borderline symptoms in my case, i.e. quick and violent “mode-switching”.

what i’m saying is: if you can, try to break down what is creating this awful situation of unbearable emotional distress for you. break it down in parts that you can work with, because “anxiety” may seem like this huge ominous thing but it probably isn’t.

also get professional help, be it book or person. schema therapy has been superuseful to me, but there is more.

in any case, what the comic is describing is not just a thing you can stop doing in a moment. there are things happening to you in your brain. with therapy and maybe the additional help of medication, you can improve things for you vastly. but it takes time, support and energy to “train your brain” and there will always be the occasional setback when your brain falls back into old habits, so to speak.

however, most people’s brains got screwed up by other people when there were just kids and/or in traumatic events outside of their control. the brain does the best it can but later in life (or outside of the traumatic situation) the things it does turn out to be maladaptive, for instance causing intense anxiety. blaming people with brains that “maladapted” is counter-productive at best, yet those affected get that a lot, on and off the internet. it’s not really fair.

fortunately, the brain (and the rest of your body) is not a broken machine with no spare parts, but a living thing, and you cannot be to old for it to slowly change and grow in helpful ways.

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Jamila Lyiscott: 3 ways to speak English

Stop what you’re doing and watch this. Especially if you have a problem with AAVE or broken English. 

This is literally my life. Literally. Jamaican Patois, African American Vernacular English, Standard American English. Exquisite spoken word here. Loved this part: “Let there be no confusion, let there be no hesitation, this is not a promotion of ignorance, this is a linguistic celebration. That’s why…I put trilingual on my last job application. I can help diversify your consumer market is all I wanted them to know. And, when they call me for the interview, I’ll be more than happy to show that I can say ‘what’s good,’ ‘whatta gwan,’ and of course, ‘hello.’”

HELL YES